Go Through to Get Through

For the regular readers here you may have noticed an absence of posts over the past few weeks. I’ve been dealing with some health issues that I’m sorting through. I just got past a difficult situation with my hip and now something else has manifested. I’ve felt worried, scared, overwhelmed and tired. I know that life is full of ups and downs, but there are times in life where it feels like the downs come way too close together. Sometimes we need a breather that we just don’t get. We get really tired. So what do we do? The only thing I’ve come up with is that we have to go through to get through. Not a revolutionary thought, but I haven’t found an alternative. I’ve only been able to make adjustments.

I’m taking things slower. If I need to stay in bed all day on the weekends, then that’s what I do, with no guilt. If I decide to make very simple dinner or buy it because I’m too tired to cook, that’s what I do. If my place doesn’t get cleaned that day, then it doesn’t. I’m recognizing my physical limitations and respecting my energy levels and meeting myself there. Self compassion is big part of dealing with challenging times.

I’ve made adjustments to my work schedule, sometimes working from home, and communicated my needs based on my health. That wasn’t easy but I have made my healing a priority.

I’m honest about how I’m feeling, even with myself. I allow myself to say, “This sucks”. Or, “I need help.”

I’m accepting that what I’m experiencing is temporary and/or manageable. I just have to find the right medical care.

This is my version of going through to get through. It sucks but I’m doing everything I can to honor the fact this is hard, and make as many selfcare adjustments as I can. I think that’s all we can do when life throws difficult and unexpected events our way.

They say if you’re going through hell, keep going. You will come out the other side. But in the meantime, make yourself and your needs a priority. Recognize what can wait, what you need and what you’re actually capable of. Set your own limits. Love yourself as you go through the difficulties.